Sex News: Silicon Valley’s dark side, Go Plus masturbation, the data dominatrix, and much more

  • The book excerpt everyone’s talking about today is a hilarious parade of prudery and dated sexual stereotypes — and a whole lot of wishful thinking. As if we should be, the piece opens with: “Many participants don’t seem the least bit embarrassed, much less ashamed.” My pearls! I laughed my way through it! If you think it’s funny when people assume the reader should be “disgusted” by sex, offended by sex work, demoralized by female sexual agency, and upset by couples who are not monogamous, then this piece will crack you up. Look for: second- (and third-) hand anecdotes making ridiculously “all the time” sex parties into fact; the thread throughout that sexual secrecy (privacy!) is bad. Methinks the author should learn about Bay Area sex culture, its parties, and its history (as well as heterocentrism, sex-positivity, negative sexual stereotypes, and consent culture) before proposing this material as nonfiction.
    * “Oh My God, This Is So F—ed Up”: Inside Silicon Valley’s Dark Side (Vanity Fair)
  • Dr. Carol Queen tells Autostraddle that the changing conversations on human sexuality “means more and more people potentially are exposed to the idea that sex, relationship and gender possibilities are many and varied; communities exist; normative ideas can be oppressive and sex/gender/relationship are not ‘one size fits all’ constructs. This is mildly interesting for some people and a matter of life and death for others.”
    * “The Alternative Is Awful”: Sexual Justice Pioneer Carol Queen on Why Sexual Justice Needs to Evolve (Autostraddle)
  • “I unzipped my pants, took my Go Plus, clipped it to the inside of the fly of my jeans in just the right spot, and zipped back up. I’m also wearing tight skinny jeans and going commando … so at this point I basically have my Go Plus pressed directly against me pretty snugly. And this, my friends, is your brain on hormones: I start walking around the mall, focusing on where I knew pokestops were located. This thing was vibrating non stop. It’s not the strongest vibration in the world, this obviously isn’t it’s intended purpose, but when you were in my…err…state of mind, it was driving me up the wall.”
    * TIFU by using a Pokémon Go Plus as a vibrator at the mall (r/tifu)
  • “There’s plenty of discussion about the emotional labor of sex work, but very little talk about the physical labor: what is it like being a sexual athlete? What does it do to your body?”
    * 2017’s Best Writing By Sex Workers (Tits and Sass)

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  • “For many of her customers, though, the real thrill comes from blackmail. Harley can demand anywhere from $50 to $10,000 by threatening to expose her submissives’ secrets. She maintains a “Loser Hall of Shame” for “Exposed Sissies and Faggots” who send her unsolicited nudes or fail to deliver on scheduled payments. For those who don’t have time for all the back and forth, subs can pay $50 to be featured on the page and another $100 to be removed. Her most loyal customers sign legally binding debt contracts, agreeing to pay her a set amount over time — usually in the tens of thousands of dollars. At least one man has even given her full control of his web cameras and intercom systems, which she uses to rouse him from sleep for impromptu worship sessions by blasting Wagner throughout his house.”
    * BDSM 2.0: Castration and extortion in the digital age (Engadget)
  • “Six months after multiple members of the Presidential Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS (PACHA) resigned, President Donald Trump’s administration has reportedly fired the remaining 16 members through a FedEx letter. No explanation was given by the president regarding their terminations.”
    * Trump Fires HIV/AIDS Advisory Committee Through FedEx Letter (Daily Dot)
  • “The Dodil is a dildo that you can mold to your own preferences over and over. The idea behind the product is that you get countless dildos within one, and can mold it to fit your body and mood. Prefer a spiral shape? The Dodil can do it. Interested in twisted tornado penetration? The Dodil’s got you.”
    * This Shape-Shifting Sex Toy Is Perfect for Creative Types (Glamour)
  • Sad to say the penis has now been removed. “The Lower East Side of Manhattan woke up to a gigantic, hot pink, phallic makeover on Christmas morning, and it’s been the talk of the town ever since. But this particular erection—like so many others in the world—was short-lived.”
    * 4-Story Tall Giant Pink Penis Displeases New Yorkers (Daily Dot)
  • “Child porn laws continue to be used stupidly by state prosecutors to punish teens for consensual behavior. The ACLU has entered a case on behalf of a 14-year-old who sent explicit photos of herself to another teen. This teen then sent the photos to others. At some point, the state decided to step in. What the teen did was demonstrably stupid, but should it be criminal?”
    * Minnesota Prosecutor Hits Teen With Child Porn Charges For Taking Explicit Photos Of Herself (TechDirt)
    Note: I wrote about kids being charged for child porn in 2009: Kids Charged for Child Porn: When Teens Make Their Own Porn, Who’s Being Exploited? (SF Gate)
  • This is very explicit, damn hot, and completely wonderful. “Hi CrashPad subscribers! I’m Tristan C, and I’ve been the photographer for Pink and White Productions for nearly ten years, which feels a little surreal! I want to take a second to share some of my favorite photos from this year’s shoots. A lot of spectacular people showed up on set in 2017 and there were some really memorable moments…”
    * The camera loves you! Best of CrashPad 2017, a photo journal (Crash Pad Series)

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  • “As the United States reckons with an outpouring of sexual misconduct cases that have shaken Capitol Hill, Hollywood, Silicon Valley and the news media, Ms. Ito’s story is a stark example of how sexual assault remains a subject to be avoided in Japan, where few women report rape to the police and when they do, their complaints rarely result in arrests or prosecution.”
    * She Broke Japan’s Silence on Rape (NYT)
  • “Playboy Enterprises Inc. reportedly is considering killing the print magazine, which was started more than six decades ago by Hugh Hefner, who died in September. Ben Kohn, a managing partner at Rizvi who is Playboy Enterprises’ chief executive, wants to shift the company’s emphasis to brand partnerships and licensing deals.”
    * Playboy is considering ending its print magazine, report says (Los Angeles Times)

Photo credit: Tristan C, via The camera loves you! Best of CrashPad 2017, a photo journal.

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Sex News: Furry fury at fascists, #MeToo ignores sex workers, all about deepfakes, AI fails at nudes

  • “The extremist La Meute (french for “The Wolf Pack”) is a Quebec based anti-immigrant group that has been rapidly growing, both in numbers and in recognition. It is one of the largest far-right groups in Canada. Like many of the nation’s far-right groups, their focus is primarily on halting Muslim immigration. The leader of the furry La Meute, which started before its far-right counterpart, is named Mr. Wolfenstein and he damn well wants you to know that the far-right version of La Meute is “the false wolf pack.””
    * This Quebec Furry Group Is Fighting the Far Right (Vice)
  • Warning for survivors. “An adult-film actress has come forward with an accusation against the actor and comedian T.J. Miller, who starred in the HBO series Silicon Valley. Dana DeArmond, a porn star who has also appeared in several mainstream movies, tweeted Tuesday: “I was harassed by both Tj Miller and the director Jordan Vogt-Roberts shooting for Comedy Central’s Mash Up. I’ve been saying Tj was an asshole for years. So there you go.””
    * T.J. Miller and ‘Kong’ Director Accused of Harassment by Porn Star Dana DeArmond (Daily Beast)
  • Warning for survivors. “Ten thousand rape kits tested. One hundred twenty-seven convictions won, 1,947 cases investigated, 817 serial rapists identified. It’s been a long eight years for Wayne County Prosecutor Kym Worthy. … We started off with an 18-month pilot program with UPS. We knew that if you could track a package, when you order something online, you ought to be able to track a rape kit in your own state.”
    * Kaffer: 8 years into tests of abandoned rape kits, Worthy works for justice (Detroit Free Press)
  • Warning for survivors. “… Nor have these women or their peers been actively courted by the #MeToo movement, which has acted as a kind of virtual welcoming tent for countless famous and everyday victims (of all genders) of sexual misconduct. Even in this incredible moment of vocal support for those muted by violence and intimidation, long-held stigmas surrounding porn have cast its participants aside.”
    * What will it take for the porn industry to have its #MeToo moment? (Mic)

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  • “Adolescent female macaques climbed on top of a sika deer and crouched. Then, they moved their pelvises as if thrusting or grinding. They squeaked sexual sounds. They also bit, sniffed and pulled on the deer’s antlers. The deer, meanwhile, stood nonchalantly and continued foraging for food.”
    * Yes, that’s a monkey grinding on top of a deer (Washington Post)
  • “It’s especially striking considering that it’s allegedly the work of one person—a Redditor who goes by the name ‘deepfakes’—not a big special effects studio that can digitally recreate a young Princess Leia in Rouge One using CGI. Instead, deepfakes uses open-source machine learning tools like TensorFlow, which Google makes freely available to researchers, graduate students, and anyone with an interest in machine learning.”
    * AI-Assisted Fake Porn Is Here and We’re All Fucked (Motherboard/Vice)
  • “London’s Metropolitan Police believes that its artificial intelligence software will be up to the task of detecting images of child abuse in the next “two to three years.” But, in its current state, the system can’t tell the difference between a photo of a desert and a photo of a naked body.”
    * British Cops Want to Use AI to Spot Porn—But It Keeps Mistaking Desert Pics for Nudes (Gizmodo)
  • “Before Divine became a popular cam model, she ran her career change by her husband, Jeff Davis, who at the time worked for the Clackamas County Sheriff’s Office in Clackamas, Oregon, for over 23 years. To make certain Divine’s new career wouldn’t affect her husband’s status at work, she and Davis hired Dan Thenell, an attorney, before creating her business. … Unfortunately, Divine and Davis’ efforts were ineffective.”
    * There’s Way More to This Ex-Police Officer’s Layoff: #NowWhat (Eco Salon)

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  • “It’s the human ass part in particular that’s upsetting residents. reports that Amy Tingle posted a now-private open letter on Facebook criticizing the ice cream shop’s choice. “It is offensive and sickening. A hyper-sexualized, obviously female cow with her ass upended and poking through a circle, tail raised up, waiting for what? I’m not sure, but I do know that I am repulsed and offended,” she wrote.”
    * This Sexy Cow Logo Is Tearing a New Jersey Town Apart (The Cut)
  • “In 1962, Beate Uhse, one of a handful of female pilots in Germany’s World War II Luftwaffe, opened what she called the world’s first sex shop, the Institute for Marital Hygiene, in the northern German town of Flensburg. … The global sex toy market will expand about 7 percent a year, to $30 billion in 2020, researcher Technavio predicts. Beate Uhse faces a growing range of rivals including—of course— Inc., which now sells vibrators, fur-lined handcuffs, and other sex toys.”
    * This Company Could Have Been the Amazon of Sex Toys, But Botched Its Chance to Dominate (Bloomberg)
  • Warning for survivors. “Surprisingly, my female students fared no better in understanding why Phoebe didn’t say no. To determine how easy it is for a woman to actually say “no,” I went around the room asking all my female students to say aloud the word like they mean it. The first time around, none of them could do it. Instead, there were whispers and even some giggles.”
    * What bad-sex novels can teach us about consent and harrassment (Washington Post)
  • Content warning: graphic descriptions of mutilation. “The summer of 2016 was the first season Dakwa can remember in which none of the 3,500 initiates died in or around Flagstaff. “December, last year, we experienced three deaths and four amputations,” Dakwa recounts. “June, last year, we also [had] two deaths and three partial amputations and one full amputation.””
    * Secrets and Nightmares of the Teenage Circumcision Circuit (Narratively)

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Sex News: Star Wars sex toys, RIP August Ames, Lady Chatterley’s court case, and much more

  • “The company, Geeky Sex Toys, has a history of making… geeky sex toys. Last year, as Mashable noted, it produced a series of Pokémon-inspired sex aids. There are also toys based on Rick and Morty (Dick and Horny), Power Rangers (The Mighty Moaning Anal Rangers), and Guardians of the Galaxy (Orgasms of the Galaxy). But the new “Star Toys” line is on another level and inspires some… questions.”
    * We Have Some Serious Questions About These Star Wars-Themed Sex Toys (io9)
  • “Porn actress August Ames has died. The medical examiner’s office in Ventura County confirmed her death Wednesday, XBIZ reported. Ames was 23. … Ames’ death spurred a Twitter conversation among people in the porn industry about cyberbullying and porn actors’ rights to choose who they work with. … Ames tweeted on Sunday suggesting that she did not work with men who have done gay porn.”
    * Fellow Porn Stars Say August Ames’ Death is Connected to Cyberbullying (Daily Dot)
    See also: Adult Star August Ames Passes Away (XBIZ)
    More: APAC Statement on the Passing of August Ames (APAC)
  • “Today, PSVR game Fate/Grand Order VR feat. Mashu Kyrielight was released in Japan. It already has a VR porn parody, and the side-by-side comparisons are unexpectedly accurate. Well, save for the sex parts. Those aren’t in the PlayStation VR game.”
    * Just Released PlayStation VR Game Already Has Porn Parody (Kotaku)

  • “A federal appeals court ruled Tuesday in favor of a Virginia man who, as a teen, was once ordered by a lower court to be photographed while masturbating in the presence of armed police officers. That warrant was ostensibly part of an ongoing sexting investigation into the then-teen, Trey Sims, who had exchanged explicit messages with his then-15-year-old girlfriend. Her mother reported the incident to the Manassas City Police Department in January 2014.”
    * Forcing kid to masturbate for cops in sexting case was wrong, court finds (Ars Technica)

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  • “In a windowless room at a two-story soundstage in San Francisco’s Mission District, a group of women from different worlds met for the first time. Judd, every bit the movie star in towering heels, leaned in to shake hands with Isabel Pascual, a woman from Mexico who works picking strawberries and asked to use a pseudonym to protect her family. Beside her, Susan Fowler, a former Uber engineer, eight months pregnant, spoke softly with Adama Iwu, a corporate lobbyist in Sacramento. A young hospital worker who had flown in from Texas completed the circle. She too is a victim of sexual harassment but was there anonymously, she said, as an act of solidarity to represent all those who could not speak out.”
    * TIME Person of the Year 2017: The Silence Breakers (TIME)
  • “While homosexual anal sex between consenting men was legalised 50 years ago in the UK, the heterosexual equivalent became legal only at the millennium in England and Wales and was highly illegal in 1960. (The 2001 film Bridget Jones’s Diary celebrated legalisation with a pretty explicit scene between Renée Zellweger and Hugh Grant.)”
    * How huge gamble by ‘Lady Chatterley’ lawyers changed obscenity law forever (Independent)

  • “[Terry] Crews said Venit stared at him from a distance and stuck out his tongue in an “overtly sexual” manner before approaching him. “I stick my hand out and he literally takes his hand and puts it, squeezes my genitals,” he recalled. “And I jump back like, ‘Hey, hey!’ … I go, ‘Dude, what are you doing?’” It didn’t stop there.”
    * What About Your Friends? Why Hollywood’s Abandonment Of Terry Crews Is Unacceptable (BET)
  • “On November 22, nominations for the GayVN awards, a prominent gay erotica industry honor, were announced after a seven year hiatus. Hunter was nominated in three major categories, a highlight after another busy year in the competitive world of gay porn. But the next day, Hunter publicly turned down his nominations and denounced the awards show on Twitter, due to the inclusion of a “Best Ethnic Scene” category, made up exclusively of minority performers. ”
    * The Gay Porn Industry is Still Super Racist (VICE)

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  • “Glamour spoke to 15 women who work in different facets of the sex industry—porn performers, dominatrices, and cam models—about their choices to enter the business. Even beyond the financial freedom and the ability to travel that their career paths afford, many of them emphasized how they use their platforms to draw attention to social causes, highlight the contributions of marginalized communities, and help destigmatize sex.”
    * 15 Sex Workers on Why—And How—They Got Into the Business (Glamour)
  • “After dealing with health care providers who assumed she couldn’t have sex and constantly questioned her lifestyle and partner choices, her first goal was was to help able-bodied people understand that folks with disabilities aren’t children and can be trusted to know what their own bodies need and can handle. “We have agency over our own bodies,” she said.”
    * The Sex Educator Teaching BDSM to People With Disabilities (Broadly/VICE)

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Sex News: Pornhub’s Facebook play, Ron Jeremy, massage chain assaults, NYC’s sexy cab drivers

  • Pornhub is determined to be to the world of porn consumers what Facebook is to identity management. “This, though, is not a story about porn. It is about power. It’s about how quickly state and corporate interests can climb into bed together. … But it was [Alec] Muffett who summarised it best in an email to me this week. “I am […] horrified that the government – in pursuit of a laudable goal such as child protection – has simultaneously bankrupted independent producers, created a business environment which could be exploited to dubious ends, taught people bad cybersecurity practices AS WELL AS creating Ashley Madison-like databases of hackable material.””
    * UK Porn Is About to Change in a Way You’re Not Going to Like (Vice)
    See also: Do you trust Pornhub with a database of your sexual preferences? (Pandora Blake)
  • Warning for survivors of sexual assault and abuse. “… Yet many performers Rolling Stone spoke with say that [Ron] Jeremy’s behavior is not considered standard in the adult industry at all. Some say they believe Jeremy uses his public persona as a lovable lech as a smokescreen for violating other performers’ consent, particularly in public spaces where such behavior would otherwise be considered morally reprehensible at best and criminal at worst.”
    * Inside Ron Jeremy Sexual Misconduct Allegations (Rolling Stone)
  • “When Bruce (Ryan Bones) decides to hang up his cape and cowl, it’s Barry Allen who tracks him down, breaks into the Batcave, and convinces him that his lack of superpowers isn’t reason enough for him to give up on being a hero. In favor of Cyborg—a character who’s probably a bit too CGI intensive to pull off for this sort of thing—the parody swaps in a Green Lantern (Colby Keller) who’s just come out as the world’s first gay superhero.”
    * The Justice League Gay Porn Parody Has Something the Real Movie Lacks (io9)
  • Warning for survivors of sexual assault and abuse. “Across the US, people go to Massage Envy spas in search of a soothing, affordable escape. More than 180 people say what they got instead was sexual assault. But the billion-dollar company says that’s not its problem to solve.”
    * More Than 180 Women Have Reported Sexual Assaults at Massage Envy (BuzzFeed)

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  • Warning for survivors of sexual assault and abuse. “Harvey and Bob Weinstein are being sued by a woman who claims Harvey sexually assaulted her in Cannes, France, but this case is different because it’s filed under the federal sex trafficking law.”
    * Harvey Weinstein Sued by Actress Under Sex Trafficking Law (TMZ)
  • “Japan expressed strong regret over San Francisco’s decision to give city property status to a statue commemorating Asian women who worked in military brothels for Japanese troops during World War II, with Osaka declaring it will terminate its 60-year sister-city ties. The signing of legislation making the memorial public property “destroyed trust,” Osaka Mayor Hirofumi Yoshimura said. “We will scrap our sister-city relationship with San Francisco.””
    * Japan protests San Francisco’s ‘sex slave’ statue decision (SF Chronicle)
  • Warning for survivors of sexual assault and abuse. “The Pentagon tried to block an independent assessment of child sex abuse crimes committed by Afghan soldiers and police, instead insisting on the creation of its own report offering a far less authoritative review of human rights violations perpetrated by U.S. allies, according to an aide to Sen. Patrick Leahy (D-Vt.).”
    * Pentagon tried to block independent report on child sex among Afghan forces, Senate office says (Washington Post)
  • “NYC cab drivers have released their calendar for 2018. Now in its fifth year, the New York Taxi Drivers Calendar features another bunch of hardworking, hunky, and glamorous cabbies photographed in a variety of sexy and amusing poses.”
    * ‘Taxi!’: There’s a ‘sexy’ New York City cab drivers calendar for 2018 (Dangerous Minds)

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  • “The truth is that content creators in the sex industry — writers, educators, performers, producers, bloggers, podcasters, photographers, etc. — have no supportive social media platforms to turn to any longer. And the platforms we do utilize, like Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Patreon, are becoming more hostile every day.”
    * How Social Media is Silencing the Sex Industry (Formidable Femme)
  • Warning for survivors of sexual assault and abuse. “What stunned them when they first met for dinner were two things. First, how many of them there were, and how common and continuing this problem seemed to be. Second were the similarities in their experiences: after committing their lives to supporting their husband’s ministry, each had been forced to leave after decades of emotional, financial and sexual abuse which had left them depressed, fearful and, for some, suicidal.”
    * Raped, tracked, humiliated: Clergy wives speak about domestic violence (ABC Australia)

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Sex News: Twitter’s porn stance, Ron Jeremy and Kevin Spacey, sex toy heist, Rick Perry on preventing sexual assault

  • Buzzfeed started a censorship panic Friday about Twitter’s adult content guidelines by mistaking Twitter’s ad policy for its general policy. “Several outlets are reporting on this update as if it’s a sweeping “ban” on porn (Buzzfeed updated its article on the guidelines but didn’t remove the incorrect tweet). But Twitter isn’t banning porn — rather, it says it’s making its policies more robust around revenge porn and sending images of non-consensual nudity (dick pics in your DMs), with specific examples of what is and isn’t considered “sensitive” material.”
    * Porn Is Still Allowed On Twitter (Motherboard)
  • “Free Speech Coalition, the national trade association for the adult entertainment industry, is officially rescinding an award granted by the organization to Ron Jeremy in 2009. … “We have now heard multiple accounts, both publicly and in confidence, from upset, angry performers about encounters with Ron Jeremy that ranged from groping to assault,” said Eric Paul Leue. “In an interview following the allegations, Jeremy dismissed the accounts or made excuses. We can not honor someone who refuses to take his colleagues’ right to consent seriously.””
    * FSC Rescinds 2009 Award Granted to Ron Jeremy (Free Speech Coalition)
  • “Since 2011, a replica of [porn star Asa] Akira’s labia and vaginal canal has been available from Fleshlight, but now an exact replica of her entire body can be purchased from Abyss Creations. Though the company has lofty plans for dolls that speak and learn — dolls the company’s CEO says will cost around $15,000 — their Wicked RealDolls are currently their most expensive product. All the Wicked RealDolls are based on porn performers, and Akira’s doll gets top billing on the site.”
    * This Company Makes Perfect Porn Star Replicas into Pricey Sex Dolls (Inverse)
  • “When deployed among strangers, the teabag is obnoxious at best and sexual harassment at worst. In those moments, the teabag feels like a sexual humiliation ritual. The fact that it’s forced upon corpses adds a new level of grisliness. Teabagging among pro players could be seen as a teabag among friends, but the audience’s presence adds pressure to be cool with a form of taunting that’s actually pretty weird.”
    * The Ups And Downs Of Teabagging In Pro Gaming (Kotaku)

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  • “Kevin Spacey made the set of Netflix’s “House of Cards” into a “toxic” work environment through a pattern of sexual harassment, eight people who currently work on the show or worked on it in the past tell CNN. One former employee told CNN that Spacey sexually assaulted him.”
    * Seven Men Have Now Accused Kevin Spacey Of Sexually Harassing Or Assaulting Them (Digg)
  • “The recent attempt by Conservative MPs to label porn a public health crisis in Canada is part of a web of attacks against gender and sexual minorities — and a diversion from necessary policy debates on ending sexual violence. Luckily, the House of Commons Standing Committee on Health didn’t go for it.”
    * Porn not to blame for public health issues (The Conversation)
  • ” Egyptian authorities in Cairo are luring gay men to hotel rooms using dating app Grindr and then arresting them, as an obsession with “penetration” and a violent crackdown on sexual minorities continues.”
    * Entrapment by app: how Egypt is cracking down on sexual ‘deviancy’ (The Age)
  • “Over $60,000 worth of dildos, butt plugs and vibrators were stolen from an erotica convention last week in what’s being described as the biggest sex-toy heist in history.”
    * $60,000 Worth Of Dildos, Butt Plugs, Stolen In Massive Heist (NewNowNext)

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  • “Regular marijuana users have about 20 percent more sex than abstainers, according to a new study from researchers at Stanford University. The study analyzed data on 28,000 female and 23,000 male participants in the National Survey of Family Growth, a nationally representative CDC survey of Americans age 15 to 49. It found that women who smoked marijuana daily had sex with a male partner an average of 7.1 times per month, compared to 6 times per month for nonsmoking women.”
    * Marijuana users have more sex, researchers find (Washington Post)
  • “Energy Secretary Rick Perry suggested on Thursday that increasing fossil fuel use to spread electricity across Africa would help prevent sexual assaults there. … “When the lights are on, when you have light that shines — the righteousness, if you will — on those types of acts,” he told an Axios event.”
    * Perry: Fossil fuels help prevent sexual assault in Africa (Politico)

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Sex Blog Roundup

I haven’t typed the words “Sex Blog Roundup” in a very long time. Back in 2005, when it was just Jonno and I running Fleshbot and the commercial porn industry hated us for not being one of them (and for being pro-indie, pro-internet, pro-sexpositive culture, pro-queer, pro-woman, pro-PoC, etc), I was the one who compiled, edited, and published this weekly post. Yep, that was all me! It was one of our most popular posts, not because of me, but because sex blogs were bursting, and they were also somewhat hard to find.

Times have changed. The commercial porn industry got eaten up by the internet, and it’s still just waking up to the value and appeal of actual indie porn. The internet is now a background player on a stage of ruling class darknets — Facebook is the definition a darknet, FYI — and most people think these darknets, apps, and fiefdoms are the internet. The open internet lost to corporations and advertising, which was the exact opposite of what everyone wanted. Over the span of about two decades, most companies welcomed sexual expression as part of the wild fabric of a free and open internet, then acted to censor, silence, and eliminate sexual expression in ways both deceitful and outright.

And yet we persist.

Back when I did the Sex Blog Roundup, people made their own unfiltered, ad-free timeline News Feeds with something called an RSS Reader. The RSS Reader didn’t mediate the relationship in any way. It didn’t tell websites that they had to pay for their followers to see their posts, and there was no chance the RSS Reader would slip in a post or advertisement from someone you didn’t subscribe to. The RSS Reader didn’t work hard to make sure you only saw things that reinforced a narrow worldview, and was ideal for exploration and discovery. The RSS Reader also didn’t spy on you or decide someone you follow is too sexy for your timeline, hiding or eliminating them without telling you. I still use an RSS Reader daily, and you should, too.

Anyway, here are a lot of incredible sex blogs that make the free and open internet a better place. Please share this post and help make their voices easier to find. Sex Blog Roundups are typically a small selection of recent posts on currently operating sex blogs. But there are even more sex blogs to be found on my Links page.) I hope this post reflects just some of the richness and diversity of voices and human sexuality that can be found online — despite the best efforts of internet companies to stamp out this crucially needed aspect of our humanity.

“Go get one of your toys.”

My long-distance, phone sex Daddy didn’t have to tell me twice. I immediately jump out of bed, approach my shoe hanger filled with toys, and momentarily pause at the overwhelming amount of options I have. “What kind of toy are you choosing tonight Little Spoon? One of your new ones?” he coos in my ear through the speaker.

* Red Hot Suz Reviews The Real Nude Dayo Dual Density Silicone Dildo (SheVibe)

Also, if you’re marketing yourself as porn for women, you can also claim that you’re the first to do it, that the market is untapped, that you’re filling a niche that nobody has ever noticed before. For some reason, the media swallow these lines every time.

* The Bellesa Affair: Piracy, PR and Porn For Women (Ms. Naughty’s Porn for Women)

While blogging gave me an outlet for my writing and my opinions, sex toys were teaching me what my body was capable of. After many months of painful penetration, my steadfast dedication to reviewing insertable toys was paying off. The G-spot, that fabled thing, actually existed. One night, as I was testing a dildo with a unique flat tip, a new sensation began to develop in my body. I felt like I needed to pee.

Without the internet and my immersion in the sex toy world, I would not have known what to do with that feeling. I would’ve ignored it, probably, or attempted to stave it off. Instead, I knew it was a precursor to squirting. I thrust harder with the dildo, and sure enough: I gushed all over the towel under me.

It was the beginning of a beautiful relationship with my G-spot.

* A Decade of Sex Blogging (Hey Epiphora)

The biggest area we don’t talk about is sex and sexuality. As a society, we inject sex into everything from burger commercials to hidden jokes in children’s movies. Despite being bombarded by sex, we really don’t talk about it. Even our sexual education system is lacking in current, agenda-free information. That becomes even more true for marginalized groups like disabled and chronically fabulous people.

One thing we absolutely must start doing is discussing sexual side effects of medications we take. Sex is a natural part of the human experience, just like disability. To help start the conversation, I’ve pulled side effects of commonly used medications for various categories. (…)

* Sexual Side Effects of Medications Chronic Sex)

It is the little things that can make me feel the happiest – take most times we have penetrative sex. He always ends it, usually, with one satisfyingly blow of his hand just as I am near finishing climax. The intense thud, followed by the instant heat combined with the waves of pleasure still running through my body are and will always be one of my favourite things. And of course if I wake up the following day and find I am marked, then even better <3

* Marked. His. Owned. Sinful Sunday #342 (Little Switch Bitch)

It all started when Violet from A Poly Princess posted her cam room set up for play parties on her Twitter and laid my eyes on hers. I was in awe of it and suddenly remembering how much of a love I have for this particular bit of furniture. I remember the first time I saw one, in the same building I would go to LARP in they also held private play parties. It was taller than me and bright red, I used to enjoy leaning back against it. It was sturdy and so comfortable. Though I never got to use it for its true purpose, it sparked so many thoughts of all the things that could be done.

Those same thoughts floated back to my mind seeing the picture. Just the idea of getting to be attached to the arms and legs of the cross, not able to move. Blindfolded, gagged or even totally deprived of senses. Then what could be done to me!

* Fantasies of September (Fox In The Flowers)

We were chatting like normal, just having a regular conversation, when he pulled his dick out. Rather than being disgusted or just exiting the chat altogether, I watched. More fascinated than disturbed. That continued for many years. He got turned on by me watching him and I got turned on by watching him get off to me watching him. I was his digital girl. I would watch him jerk his beautiful dick, never taking my eyes off of him. Then watching as his face slightly twitch, him breathing heavily, then him shooting this thick white cum out. The look of relief and pleasure coming across his face every time he was done.

After we disconnected, I would get myself off. For some reason, I enjoyed watching but never wanted to be watched.

* The Reason I Masturbate (The Aqua Kink)

Something is going on that I’m not sure many people are aware of because it can be subtle and insidious. It sneaks right past us and suddenly, in the sprinkled throughout our sex “positivity” are pockets of really unpleasant negative shit. I honestly think folks don’t realize how often we yuck all over each other’s yums.

What does that look like? What are these not-so-obvious ways folks who think they are nailing it disparage each other’s turn ons? Let’s look at some examples (…)

* Don’t Yuck Each Other’s Yums (Joellen Notte | The Redhead Beadhead)

So here’s my SOS: share our shit. Share your favourite posts, images, videos, tweets, facebook updates. Links to porn sites where people can pay for amazing stuff. Recommend great erotica to your friends. Make it clear to large platforms that the consumers who click on Amazon and Google ads, who buy clothes and books and video games: these consumers also enjoy porn! And erotica! And other forms of sex! It is not utter fantasy, just a boring and simple truth, that the venn diagram of ‘consumers’ and ‘adult consumers’ is a circle. This is important because when platforms push sex content into a silo they’re effectively telling people that sex is different to anything else that humans do. It should be separate. We should take a surgical blade to our brains and our lives and neatly slice sex from the rest of it.

So find your favourite sex content, and share that shit.

* Sex Blogger SOS: Share Our Shit (Girl On The Net)

Such as: worrying about how the free and independent open web (which means, those of us whose stuff is on our own domains and servers, not on some “free” social media site or blogging/picture service that can change the rules without notice) are going to survive long enough that we’ll still be here when the rubble stops bouncing. Because this shit cannot last. Blockchain tech and peer-to-peer and strong crypto and supercomputers in every pocket and software radios strong enough to bounce streaming video off of hobbyist drone balloons in the jet stream and more awesome cryptoanarchist shit of that sort that I’m too old and slow to understand: it’s not just coming, it’s already here, it’s just not been patched together properly yet. And when that happens, Facebook is dead. PayPal, Visa, Mastercard? Dead. Patreon and all the other crowdfunding middlemen? Dead. Twitter and Google? Dead. Oh, we’ll have things that look like social media and payments and search and crowdfunding, but they won’t be gatekeepers, they won’t be censors, and they won’t suck more than a microfraction out of any transaction. Because if they try, they’ll be ignored and replaced in real time.

The trick, as it’s always been, is to survive in the meanwhile. Head down, shoulder to the harness because the mules are dead, do the work.

* To Survive The Pornocalypse: Share Our Shit Saturdays (#SoSS) (Eros Blog)

Main post image via Sarah Zak ‘Raw (NSFW)’ (Sticks and Stones Agency); second post image via Ebonee Davis by Steven Burton HQ Photo Shoot (In The Raw).

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Sex News: Patreon, Scoble, Toback, Terry Richardson, Asia Argento, and AI-assisted dating

  • “Adult content creators are worried they won’t have a safe, viable income source in Patreon anymore. Last week, the site, which allows creators to sell subscriptions to fund their work, made its community guidelines on adult content more strict. … A group of creators penned an open letter to Patreon in response to this change titled “Don’t abandon us,” and are organizing a petition asking Patreon to reevaluate these changes. … Wednesday morning, according to Patreon’s CEO, Jack Conte, Patreon added more phrasing to their guidelines, including that they’re not allowing “real people engaging in sexual acts, such as masturbation or sexual intercourse on camera.””
    * Adult Content Creators Are Fighting Patreon’s New Anti-Porn Rules (Motherboard)
    * See also, updates: Adult Content Creators: Patreon Is Doing ‘the Exact Opposite of What We Asked For’ (Motherboard)
    * VB note: One of the ways this site stays running is thanks to my patrons. I don’t know if this will affect me, considering that I occasionally post sex-positive porn galleries I find.
  • “Last Thursday, former Microsoft spokesman and well-known blogger Robert Scoble became the latest of the many, many men in the technology industry who have been publicly accused of sexual harassment this year. … On Wednesday, Scoble shared a new blog post, apparently against the advice of his lawyers, that he hopes “in the spirit of healing” will help to “set the record straight.” Mission failed. … In the almost interminable blog post, unapologetically titled “No, of that I’m innocent,” Scoble writes that he is actually the victim here, not the women he allegedly assaulted or harassed.”
    * Scoble Isn’t Sorry (Slate)
  • “Hundreds of women including actress Julianne Moore have now come forward with allegations of crass behavior and sexual misdeeds by filmmaker James Toback, and authorities in Los Angeles and New York are urging them to file official reports. … The encounters often ended, according to many of the women interviewed, with Toback dry-humping them or masturbating in front of them, ejaculating into his pants or onto their bodies.”
    * James Toback’s 200-plus accusers now include Julianne Moore (Los Angeles Times)
  • “One of the primary reasons – in my opinion – that ‘adult’ content is so hard to promote and monetise is that companies refuse to accept one important fact: Adult consumers are consumers. No one lives their life entirely in a ‘NSFW’ silo – only ever engaging with porn or sex blogs. You – the people who read this – have full and rounded lives. … However, when platforms like this strip ‘adult’ from their services, they are banking on the fact that you won’t care. That it won’t make a difference to you because adult content is embarrassing and shameful: no one’s going to share a link to their favourite porn site, or their favourite bit of erotic writing, so really who’s going to notice if all that shit disappears?”
    * Sex blogger SOS: Share Our Shit (Girl on the Net)

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  • “Of the accounts, perhaps the most distressing is that of Italian actress and director Asia Argento. In the article, she recalls Weinstein forcing himself on her and performing oral sex, despite her requests to stop. “At some point,” reads the piece, “She stopped saying no and feigned enjoyment, because she thought it was the only way the assault would end.” The actress says she still blames herself for what happened. … But while many around the world have commended Argento for the risk she took in sharing her story, things have been different in her home country of Italy. Since the article came out, the outrage has been overwhelmingly directed towards Argento.”
    * In bashing Asia Argento for her Weinstein assault claims, Italy is showing its deep misogyny (Quartz)
  • Only five million years after his sexual predation was well-documented … “According to the email, Woolhouse instructed Condé Nast International — the publisher of fashion magazines like Vogue, GQ, Vanity Fair, and Glamour — that all work commissioned for [Terry] Richardson should be “killed or substituted with other material”.”
    * Photographer Terry Richardson Has Been Banned From Top Magazines After Allegations From Models (BuzzFeed)
  • “A man agreed to plead guilty to hacking into 550 Apple iCloud and Gmail accounts, including those of celebrities in Los Angeles, officials said Monday. … Authorities began investigating Herrera after nude photos of Jennifer Lawrence and dozens of other celebrities were hacked from their Apple devices. Investigators have not found any evidence linking Herrera to the leaks or showing that he shared the photos or videos he obtained, officials said. Herrera is the third person to be prosecuted as part of the investigation. ”
    * Man faces 5 years in prison after hacking into 40 celebrity accounts and hundreds of others (Los Angeles Times)
  • “Playboy responded to backlash against its first transgender Playmate with a series of tweets comparing recent social media reactions to reader letters about its first black Playmate in 1965.”
    * Playboy Claps Back At Transphobia After Announcing First Trans Playmate (Huffington Post)

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  • “Sex education startup recently raised $800,000 to help achieve its goal of offering up easy access to sex-positive, inclusive and comprehensive education around sex and sexuality. Current investors include Cyan Banister of Founders Fund, X Factor Ventures and The House Fund.”
    * Startup raises $800,000 to improve sex education (TechCrunch)
  • “Loveflutter, a Twitter-themed dating app from the UK, doesn’t ask me to fill out a personality survey or lengthy About Me (it caps my self-description at a cute 140 characters). Instead, it’s paired with the language processing company to compute the compatibility between me and its user base using the contents of our Twitter feeds. Is this good matchmaking or a gimmick? As a sex-crazed neurotic, I think you know where I stand.”
    * The Future of Online Dating Is Unsexy and Brutally Effective (Gizmodo)

Main post image via: Cleo Cwiek photographed by Miles Aldridge for Numéro Art #1, Fall & Winter 2017 (Portraits Of Girls)

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